LoveUniHateExams said: The fact that the elder's manual says that elders aren't to force a DA means nothing.
The reality is often very different.
If anyone gets a chance to download “Shepherd the Flock of God” manual for the congregation Elders, nowhere does it instruct Elders to follow members (who they suspect of committing adultery or fornication) in a car and collect evidence for themselves.
My baptized teenage cousin ( who was an elder's son) and his best friend (also baptized, who was also an elder's son ) were both followed by two Elders (who suspected both were up to no good). The two elders ( who followed my cousin and his friend in a car) always butted heads with their elder fathers.
The elders would follow them in their cars, hide and wait to see what they were up to. One night my cousin and his friend met their girlfriends at a local hotel and rented a room. The two elders parked the car and waited in the parking lot. My cousin and his friend came out to the parking with their girlfriends and.... lo and behold.... find the two elders waiting for them.
They both admitted they had girlfriends and were fornicating at the hotel room. Both were disfellowshipped. I was at the Ministry School meeting when they made the announcement.
What the elder manual teaches and the reality is very different.